For my anger management problem. Well technically she was just a counselor and not a shrink. And the session was paid for the by the company, so what the heck, I thought. Anger was something that I did not think I had. I think I am a happy person, positive and never had a care. Apparently, the wife noticed that do I snap once in a while. It gets more frequent these days. And then I started to notice too. I can be driving on a slow Saturday, someone overtakes me and I turn into godzilla. I can trail that fellow no matter how fast he driver. Wife can see the rage in my face, I can feel the rage all over the body. I so want to make someone hurt bad.
You know how this always ends, everyone gets hurt and nothing is gained from it. So I decided to make use of company benefits and see the shrink.
Her advise started with the usual, breathing technique and then how to clench your fist. Apparently, there are ways to calm down, decide what to do and then act on it.
I mean.. it sounds easy right. Try pissing me off these days and we shall see blood!
She did teach something interesting though. The ABC of anger management.You can read more here but I think the article is too complicated. Basically
A – Stands for Action. Someone’s action, which I cannot control.
B – is for the irrational belief that I held. This is in the mind. Example, I think people should not overtake from the left.
C – for the consequences. I get angry, slam the accelerator and make a fool of myself.
In this technique, I am supposed to challenge the Belief. Idiots exist on the roads. The end up killing people. As long as I am not the one getting Killed, live with it.
Does not sound right.. hhmm..
Anyway, it is the B that takes the A to C. Without the belief, someone’s action will not translate to my consequences. I should first calm down, then challenge my irrational belief, then subsequently take control of the situation.
I am supposed to start a journal about how I overcome my anger. Take the ABC and note down. I don’t think I want to do it here in the blog. But perhaps I should share some once in a while.
You heard of the song ” I want my money back”?
I want my old life back. Whatever happened to the happy go lucky fellow.
WOW! That serious? I used to have the same problem that you have. I went to have a son and he changed me. My life changed from an impatient guy, to someone docile. So, moral of the story, have a son! Don’t you think that you have honeymooned long enough?
creating a problem to solve another problem?
I don’t think an offspring is a problem :/ Take it as a gift. Anyway great to see you are taking steps to help yourself.
Admitting one’s own fault goes a long way in mending them.
Good luck!
gift?
you watch incredible hulk?
Errr, by offspring I meant children, a kid, your child. Nvm 🙂